Improved self-esteem levels are important for success in life. This improvement must however start at an early age; and parents have an important part on influencing how a child perceives him or herself.
Parents should also make sure the child’s interactions are not limited to just people within the family, but should also involve the outside world. If you have a shy son or daughter, here are some tips that help develop your child’s self-esteem levels.
1. Make it a point to express your love and attention to them at all times as children who feel loved and receive lots of affection subconsciously develop their self-esteem levels.
2. Always provide compliments when required, as the compliments for the smallest things done right means a lot to your child. However make sure the compliment’s sincere, and avoid exaggerated compliments. Exaggerated compliments only result in negative self-esteem, and make it difficult for your child to accept rejection and disappointments later on in life.
3. You should be proud of your child, and express how lucky you are to be their parents. Consequently, talk positively about your child, especially in the midst of important people in your child’s life like their classmates, friends and teachers.
4. Do not compare your child with others and in case it cannot be avoided, at least give reassurances that make your child feel special and unique in their own way. Similarly, you have to tell others about your child’s strengths. This is especially important when your child is schooling as by informing their teachers about your child’s strengths, their teachers can continue to concentrate and build on those strengths.
5. While setting goals for your child, make sure they suit your child’s age and capabilities as unattainable goals only lead to negative self-esteem. By teaching your child the need and importance of attaining goals, you not only help develop a healthy sense of self-worth, but also help them reach similar goals in the future.
6. In case your child gets offended by other people’s hurtful comments, validating your child’s feelings makes them open up to you. Moreover, the negative comment helps your child deal with the future disappointments they will have to face in the real world.
7. Lastly, show your child that you love her/him unconditionally by regularly telling him you love him. So when your child meets some failure in life, let him know that you are always there for him, and love him no matter what happens.
Of course, for you to improve your child’s self-esteem levels, you first have to have a healthy sense of self-esteem. It is only if you can lead by example, and if you carry a positive outlook to life can you provide your child with the necessary support to build their self-esteem levels.